Reconnecting with your community and loved ones

August 17, 2011 @ 6:15 pm by Dr. Tim

I was sitting on my back porch with my wife a few months ago and pondered aloud about feeling disconnected from our friends. My wife was quick to point out that I have been working like a “madman” for the last year and had not really been around much. At first I was a little defensive, but then her comment made me realize just how much I have neglected my friends and family during this crazy time.

From my coaching with advisors and managers around the country I know that I am not the only one who has fallen into this trap. Many individuals feel disconnected from their spouse, family or community right now. It is difficult for someone who is not in this business to really understand the stress of the last year and many of us have worked more hours than ever before. This gap in relationships can increase our stress and cause long-term relationship tension if we don’t address it.

Family and community are a huge stabilizing force for us and can only be neglected for so long. Therefore, I encourage you to find habitual ways to stay connected. For example, from this conversation my wife and I started a “Buddies, Bottles & Bites” weekend ritual. We invite about 4 – 5 couples over for a casual time on our screened in porch where we share good wine, simple appetizers, and fun conversation. We have had many and they have been very recharging. Laughing with others is great medicine.

What are you doing to stay connected with your family and friends? Don’t neglect them too long. The love of others can help us get through even the most difficult times. So quit reading this email and call someone and make a plan!

Dr. Tim Ursiny